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The News Minute | October 10, 2014 | 11.01 pm IST The people who make up the sex industry don't always get into it by force. It can't be denied that forced sex work is a reality, voluntary sex work, if it can be called that, is also a reality.  Website Matter, recently published a former escort's account of what her life was like as an escort, and how she turned it into a business that worked to her advantage, and how she negotiated it safely to quit a year ago. The 24-year-old Russian immigrant to New York City, made a choice. She needed the money, but she also wanted to be a film-maker some day, have a family and a child.  An extract from what she wrote: "I don’t hate men. I am not a victim of child trafficking. I have never been raped, or drugged, or done porn. I’m not an addict. I never had a pimp. I don’t suffer from what my American girlfriends call “daddy issues” and what my shrink refers to as “malformed identity centering on early childhood abandonment.” My dad had lovers. I don’t blame my parents for my job, or my life. Other kids have other problems. My parents had problems when they were kids. My therapist has helped me see that"  "I’m a businesswoman. I did what politicians in this country are always encouraging immigrants to do. Work hard, seize opportunity, maximize your talents, and adjust and adapt to the new world economy. "I got out because I want to study filmmaking, and psychology, and I can afford to do that now. I got out because eventually I’d like to get married and have a kid, and the longer I escorted, the trickier that would get. My life since I quit has been sort of complicated, and I’ll tell you about that. But first I’ll tell you how I got into the business, and what it was like." For the full account, go to Matter.

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