Writer Toni Hammer’s letter to her five-year-old daughter advising her on many things has gone viral.

Be unapologetically you A mothers powerful letter to her daughter is moving the internet Toni Hammer/Facebook
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American writer Toni Hammer's powerful letter to her five-year-old daughter is touching the right chords with many on the internet.

Just recently, Toni posted the letter on Facebook advising her daughter to do many things, including asking her to "unapologetically" be herself.

In the post, which has gone viral, the mother of two writes,

"Don't apologize when someone else bumps into you.

Don't say "sorry to be such a pain." You're not a pain. You're a person with thoughts and feelings who deserves respect.

Don't make up reasons as to why you can't go out with a guy you don't wanna go out with. You don't owe anyone an explanation. A simple "no thanks" should be acceptable.

Don't overthink what you eat in front of people. If you're hungry, eat, and eat what you want. If you want pizza, don't get a salad just because other people are around. Order the damn pizza.

Don't keep your hair long to make someone else happy.

Don't wear a dress if you don't want to.

Don't stay home because you don't have anyone to go out with. Take yourself out. Have experiences by yourself and for yourself.

Don't hold back your tears. Crying means you're feeling something that needs to get out. It's not a weakness. It's being human.

Don't smile because someone told you to.

Don't be afraid to laugh at your own jokes.

Don't say "yes" to be polite. Say "no" because it's your life.

Don't hide your opinions. Speak up and speak loudly. You should be heard.

Don't apologize for being who you are. Be brave and bold and beautiful. Be unapologetically you."

The post has been shared over 4,500 times at the time of writing this copy.

Speaking to Huffington Post, Toni said that her daughter started kindergarten this year. As a child Toni herself had a difficult time in school and she wrote the letter hoping her daughter would be more confident in dealing with these situations if she came across them.

"I was picked on a lot as a kid and I hate the idea of her going through what I did. I know it won’t be long before someone tries to make her feel ‘less than’ and I want her to face it with more confidence then I had at that age," she told the site.

"I want to raise a daughter who is as confident as she is kind, who fights for those who can’t fight for themselves, who isn’t afraid to speak her mind and work hard to make the world a better place," she added. 


To my daughter, Don't apologize when someone else bumps into you. Don't say "sorry to be such a pain." You're not a...

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